Every Day Can’t Be a Cheat Day: How I Stopped Cheating on Myself and Started Showing Up Again

It was just a TikTok video.

Not a fancy keynote. Not a spiritual download. Just one of those mindless scroll moments on a quiet morning. I was sitting on the couch, sipping coffee, wrapped in my robe—when I heard someone say:

“Every day can’t be a cheat day.”

And I froze.

I don’t know who said it. I couldn’t even tell you what came before or after. But that one sentence was a punch to the gut, a mirror held up to my face.

Because I realized… I’d been cheating on myself.

Not once in a while. Not occasionally. Every single day.

And it was showing up everywhere.

The Silent Betrayal

I had already noticed I wasn’t feeling like myself. I’d put on weight. I wasn’t moving my body regularly. I’d stopped going to bed early. My mornings weren’t sacred anymore—I was checking Facebook instead of reading. I felt sluggish. Distracted. A little lost.

But I brushed it off.

“It’s just this season.”

“It’s part of getting older.”

“I’ve been working hard—I deserve to rest.”

“I’ll get back to it soon.”

Excuse after excuse. Rationalization after rationalization. It all sounded kind, even mature. But it wasn’t self-care. It was self-abandonment dressed in a cozy bathrobe.

And in that one TikTok moment, I finally saw it clearly:

I wasn’t showing up for myself.

I had stopped keeping the promises I made to me.

When Every Day Becomes Thursday

Years ago, after having three kids in 17 months (yes, really), I got into the best shape of my life. I trained for triathlons. I meal prepped. I was committed. And I gave myself one cheat day—Thursday.

Thursday was intentional. It was earned. It was contained. I had structure, rhythm, and flow.

But over time, without even realizing it, every day started to become Thursday.

And not just with food.

One more snack after dinner.

One missed workout that turned into a skipped week.

One more episode before bed.

One more scroll instead of reading.

One more day without showing up fully in my business.

It didn’t feel like much in the moment. But it added up. Slowly, I became a version of myself I didn’t recognize.

Not because I had “let myself go” in the superficial sense—but because I had stopped being intentional. I had stopped leading myself.

And I knew it.

The Decision That Changed Everything

Thankfully, I didn’t stay in that place long.

Because the moment I saw the truth, I did what I always teach others to do. I used my own method:

Decide. Declare. Do.

It’s how I’ve made every major change in my life. And this moment was no different.

I decided I wasn’t going to cheat on myself anymore.

I declared it—first to a friend, and now to you, tens of thousands of readers.

And then… I did.

No drama. No crash diet. No “starting Monday.”

I just started showing up for me again.

Recommitting to Myself

I went back to the basics:

• Food: I started eating like I used to—planning my meals, packing them with protein, cutting out the snacks after dinner. Not to punish myself, but to fuel myself.

• Movement: I hired a trainer again. I committed to training three times a week, with light movement on the off days. It felt empowering, not overwhelming. And this time, it wasn’t to be a triathlete. It was to be strong at 57.

• Mornings: I returned to reading in the quiet of the morning instead of reaching for my phone.

• Evenings: I turned off the TV earlier and got to bed at a decent hour.

The shifts were small but sacred. I didn’t need to change everything overnight. I just needed to come back into integrity with myself.

And almost immediately, I felt the difference.

When Alignment Returns

I started sleeping better.

I had more energy.

My brain fog lifted.

I got more done in less time.

My body responded quickly to the movement and clean eating.

My business picked up—without changing a thing externally.

Because I was back in alignment.

That’s the secret most people miss. You don’t attract success, health, or joy from chaos and compromise. You attract it from wholeness. From the energy of being rooted in your own power.

When I’m fully committed to myself, everything else flows. Clients come. Ideas land. Confidence rises.

I don’t have to try to manifest. I am the manifestation of a woman in alignment.

Discipline is Devotion

People often think discipline is rigid. That it means restriction or rules.

But for me, discipline is devotion. It’s an act of self-love. It’s how I say to myself:

“I respect you. I honor you. I believe in your future.”

I don’t feel deprived. I feel powerful.

Because I’m choosing what I want most over what I want now.

This version of me doesn’t cut corners. She doesn’t bargain with herself. She doesn’t cheat and justify.

She leads.

And that’s who I was always meant to be.

A Better Version Always Exists

What I’ve learned is this:

You are always one decision away from coming back to yourself.

You are always capable of choosing again. Of beginning again. Of rising.

There is always a better version of you available—one that eats with intention, moves with purpose, builds with clarity, and rests with reverence.

You don’t have to fix everything at once. You just have to stop cheating on the version of you that wants to rise.

Let me ask you something personal:

Where are you cheating on yourself?

Where have you been saying “just this once” too many times?

Where have you been hiding behind “I’m too busy,” “I’m too old,” “It’s just a phase,” or “I’ll start Monday”?

It’s okay. You’re human.

But you’re also powerful.

And if this moment is your wake-up call, consider this your sign. You don’t need to keep betraying your highest self.

Let This Be Your Line in the Sand

If you’re reading this and feeling a lump in your throat or a tug in your chest, trust that.

It means something inside you is ready to recommit.

You don’t need to overhaul your whole life. You just need a reset. A pause. A space to clear the mental clutter and remember what matters most.

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You don’t have to do it alone. But you do have to decide.

Decide.

Declare.

Do.

I’m here when you’re ready.

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